I keep comparing myself to people ten years younger. How do I stop?

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Mary Spio · Accepted Answer

By making the comparison specific enough to act on, or dropping it entirely. The vague version has no use at all. If the feeling points at something concrete — a skill you keep avoiding, a conversation you keep not having — then it is useful information, and the cure is doing that thing this week.

If it is general, it is just noise wearing the costume of ambition, and it has never moved anybody forward.

Ask yourself which one it is. The answer usually arrives immediately and is usually uncomfortable.

I keep comparing myself to people ten years younger. How do I stop?

You are further along than it feels.

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